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One of the biggest problems with the royal family is that there are too many people involved in their day-to-day lives. That means there are a lot of people who, once their job is done, can turn around and tell the public what it was like to deal with a particular member of the royal family, and what the relationships between them were like. That’s exactly what has happened with former Buckingham Palace butler Grant Harrold, who has just written a book titled The Royal Butler.

In the book, Harrold goes in depth about his experience with the royal family. And in interviews about it, he’s been talking about why Prince William and Prince Harry fell out, and also why William and Kate Middleton wouldn’t hire him as staff. “I wanted to butler, to look after [William and Catherine], and they didn’t want any of it,” Harrold explained to Page Six. “They wanted to do stuff themselves. They were carrying their own stuff, doing their own washing up, their own cooking.”

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“They are very much still like that. [William] is very hands-on. To this day, I’m the only one that has ever done any butlering for him.”

All of this tracks with reports of Prince William trying to modernize the monarchy. But Harrold didn’t just talk about Prince William and Kate Middleton’s preferences. He also talked about why William and Harry fell out and how their relationship changed.

“The two of them were not just the best of friends, they were inseparable,” he told Page Six. “At Highgrove [Charles’ private residence], they were always together. They were walking together, in the pub together, on motorbikes together. Very rarely did they do stuff separately.” But then, according to him, it all went badly.

“As soon as Meghan came into his life, everything changed,” Harrold told the outlet. “It could be that Harry had his own awakening and suddenly decided he didn’t like the organization, but the problem is that Meghan was with him when it happened. The biggest change in Harry’s life is Meghan.”

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But Harrold believes there must be something else we don’t know. “I was genuinely shocked when they fell out,” he said. “There must be something deeper going on that we’re not being told.”

Even as rumors of reconciliation between King Charles and Prince Harry pick up steam, and how that could open the door for a possible reconciliation with Prince William, Harrold isn’t very convinced that the two will ever get back to where they were. “The king doesn’t trust Harry because of what Harry has said. He worried that he would use it to his advantage. And he has,” he told the outlet.

“He’s done what household members typically do and spilled the beans. It’s a big thing for the family to have one of their own do this,” Harrold added, in a bit of an ironic twist, as he is one of those household members spilling the beans.

“They were all so close, and to see that relationship completely destroyed, I do not see them coming back from it,” he added. “If they reconcile, then fall out again, what’s to say there won’t be another book, Netflix series or interview about it?”

Whether the reconciliation happens or not, Harrold won’t have any say on it, and this time, looking at it from the outside, he won’t have any insight into it either. But as someone who spent a lot of time with the members of the royal family, his opinion is still something people are interested in.  

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