Selena Gomez Calls Out an ‘Embarrassing’ Ex on ‘How Does It Feel to Be Forgotten’—But Which One?
Selena Gomez is living her best life with fiancé Benny Blanco, but on their new joint album, she’s delivering what seems like a final word to someone from her past. The track in question, “How Does It Feel to Be Forgotten,” appears on the pop star’s album with Blanco, I Said I Love You First, and already has fans speculating about which former flame she’s addressing.
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On the cutting track, Gomez doesn’t mince words with lines about an ex who walked in with a “big-ass grin” and acted like “we’re friends.” She also directly questions how it feels to be forgotten and calls their behavior “embarrassing,” suggesting they should “go cry when no one’s watching.”
While Gomez is now happily engaged to Blanco after their December 2023 relationship reveal, this particular song seems to unearth lingering feelings about a past relationship that clearly left its mark. So, who’s it about?
Who are Selena Gomez’s “How Does It Feel to Be Forgotten” lyrics about?
While many fans immediately connected the dots to Gomez’s most high-profile relationship with Justin Bieber, the singer herself has suggested a more nuanced interpretation. In her Spotify Countdown To… series, Gomez emphasized that most of the album reflects her more recent life experiences rather than what listeners might initially assume.
“I’ve evolved so much, and I have experienced life with new people,” Gomez explained during the interview with Blanco. “I’ve had to go through transitions with friends and lose people in my life and gain new people.”
The song does contain what appears to be a reference to her 2019 single “Look At Her Now” with the line “Look at you, just look at you now”—a track widely believed to address her Bieber breakup. This lyrical callback certainly adds fuel to the speculation, especially considering their on-again, off-again relationship spanned from 2010 to 2018.
However, it’s worth noting that Gomez has dated multiple people since her final split from Bieber. In 2023 alone, she was linked to musicians Zayn Malik and Drew Taggart before beginning her relationship with Blanco in June of that year.
The track’s chorus doesn’t mince words, with Gomez suggesting her ex needs to go “heal” while she has completely moved on. The song concludes with a powerful Spanish outro that translates to: “Now all is said and done / All is forgotten.”
Whatever—or whoever—inspired the emotional ballad, Gomez has clearly found happiness with producer Benny Blanco. After keeping their relationship relatively private initially, the couple went public in December 2023 and announced their engagement in late 2024.
Their collaborative album serves primarily as a celebration of their love story, though moments like “How Does It Feel to Be Forgotten?” suggest Gomez needed one final musical statement to close certain chapters from her past. “I think that’s what to me the album was about,” Gomez shared about the project’s broader themes. “Some songs were actually meant to be about friendships in my life.”
So who’s actually in Selena’s lyrical crosshairs here? We may never know for sure. But one thing’s clear—with a shiny engagement ring on her finger and a hit new album with Benny, it looks like Selena’s finally found her happy ending after years of relationship drama.
Fans can stream I Said I Love You First on all major music platforms now.
Selena Gomez’s “How Does It Feel to Be Forgotten” Lyrics:
Verse 1: Selena Gomez
I sip it in the way he likes
Ruby red, locking eyes
Lipstick kisses with no ice
On the edge, paradise
Pre-Chorus: Selena Gomez
’Cause you walked in, big-ass grin
Talkin’ like we’re friends, honey, what were you thinkin’?
He loves me, I love him
Look at you, just look at you now
Chorus: Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco
You’re so embarrassing
Go cry when no one’s watchin’
I can’t imagine it
How does it feel to be forgotten (Ah), forgotten? Ah-ah
How does it feel?
I hope one day you heal
How does it feel to be forgotten?
Forgottеn
Verse 2: Selena Gomez
I know it must be difficult
I know that it is not what you thought, no
Pre-Chorus: Selena Gomez
’Cause you walked in, big-ass grin
Talkin’ likе we’re friends, honey, what were you thinkin’?
He loves me, I love him
Look at you, just look at you now
Chorus: Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco
[Repeated chorus]
Outro
Ahora todo está dicho y hecho
Todo está olvidado
