Are Haley & Pilar Still Together From The Ultimatum: Queer Love? How Pilar’s Conservative Parents Reacted to Her Engagement
Jason Pham
Warning: The Ultimatum: Queer Love Season 2 spoilers ahead. They had one of the most emotional journeys on The Ultimatum: Queer Love Season 2, but are Haley and Pilar still together after their engagement in the finale?
Haley Drexler and Pilar Dizon were one of four couples who got engaged on The Ultimatum: Queer Love Season 2, along with AJ Blount and Britney Thompson; Kyle Neal and Bridget Matloff; and Dayna Matthews and Magan Mourad. Haley gave Pilar the ultimatum, which led them to enter trial marriages with new partners. Haley coupled up with Magan Mourad (who was with Dayna Matthews), while Pilar’s trial marriage was with Kyle Neal (who was with Bridget Matloff).
Related: Who’s still together from The Ultimatum: Queer Love Season 2?
The Ultimatum Season 2 finale saw Pilar and Haley get engaged despite the many bumps in the road in their relationship. But where are they now?
Are Haley and Pilar still together from The Ultimatum: Queer Love?
Pilar confirmed she and Haley were still together in an interview with Tudum after the Season 2 finale and reunion, in which she also revealed how she told her parents (who disapproved of her sexuality) of her engagement to Haley. “I just feel so much lighter and free, and it took this experience to really look in a mirror and sit with all this trauma that I hadn’t unpacked in myself,” she said.
When Pilar told her parents that she and Haley were engaged, she revealed that her father’s response was, “Thanks for letting us know.” That’s when Pilar pushed her parents for their real thoughts. “It started with me saying, ‘You guys say you love me, but these are just words. I need to understand what does that mean?’ ” Pilar said. That’s when parents confirmed that they couldn’t “endorse” her relationship because of their religious views.
“I’ve never been in a mental space to say that to them, and I got crickets for a month or two,” Pilar said before revealing that her parents eventually reached out to her and set a plan to meet Haley. Haley, for her part, also told Tudum about how her and Pilar’s communication has improved since The Ultimatum: Queer Love. “We truly talk about everything,” she said. “No conversation has a time limit and nothing is taboo between us.” She continued, “We’ve had the same conversations multiple times, and it’s just always about, if you want more support, if you want more understanding around this thing, I want to give it to you because you’re my partner… We felt like we could get through anything, so we were like, if you feel like you have a romantic or physical connection, you can feel comfortable to pursue that. We would give each other the respect of being honest about it, emotional preparedness, and support.”
Haley also teased her and Pilar’s wedding plans. “We want to have a big beautiful wedding, but that takes time and planning, and I don’t want to wait to be official,” Haley said. “I did feel pretty safe being a queer person the last 10 years, but now to feel like all of that progress that was made is not being reflected in the path forward [in this country]. It does make me really concerned.” She continued, “Pilar and I talk about it a couple times a week. We just need to put the details down and do it.”
The Ultimatum: Queer Love streams on Netflix.
