Most of us are probably guilty of being lazy in the “sack” sometimes. (I mean, the majority of sex happens in bed. It’s hard to get amped up when it’s so cozy!) And don’t take that the wrong way—we’re all for getting wild in the bedroom, but sometimes, you just need some easy, chill positions to get the job done. After all, sex really can be a workout, with the wildest positions burning up to 150 calories an hour!
Luckily, sex can be as crazy or as tame as you want it to be. For days when you’re extra exhausted and just want to nap or you’re just not feeling frisky, there are lazy sex positions that will allow you to get the maximum bang (no pun intended) for your (very little) effort. Being tired or just not very horny definitely doesn’t mean you won’t change your mind about wanting to get some action if your partner (or you) puts on the right moves. And, as you’ll learn here, those moves don’t have to take much energy—or even much motion, in some cases.
From Inverted Missionary and Launch Pad to Spoons and Deck Chair, the positions outlined below—most of which work for all gender pairings—are the best for when you can’t be bothered to do the heavy lifting. The best part is that most of them are done laying down, so you won’t have to worry about lifting a finger (or in this case, your torso.)
I asked sex therapist Marissa Nelson, LMFT, about how to max-out the feel-good factor in a variety of low-effort sex moves. Below, she gives her best tips for getting off during sleepy midnight delights or lazy Sunday mornings. We’ve also added some of our favorites for good measure. (You’re welcome.)
“Spoons feels amazing for heterosexual couples because the angle and position actually squeeze the penis and make it tight with each thrust,” explains Nelson. “It works great for [two vagina owners], too, since the big spoon partner can reach around and finger the little spoon.” *This sex position works for all gender pairings!
Did someone say foreplay? In this one, the vagina-owner can lay on their back with their legs open, while their partner can rest at their side, with one hand caressing their body. There’s room for simultaneous nipple and clit stimulation, which makes this the best position for targeting the erogenous zones.
“In this one, the bottom can thrust their hips upward to assist in pleasuring their partner,” says Nelson. “It’s a great one for intimacy, since the partners can look into each other’s eyes, hold hands, and let hands and fingers wander all over each other’s bodies.”
If you’re a fan of from-behind positions, you’ll love this one. The vagina-owner can lay on their stomach with one leg bent and lifted, while the penis-owner can go on top, hovering over them with their knees slightly bent. It may sound a little complicated, but once you get into the groove, it will come very naturally.
“If it’s midnight nookie and you’re only half-awake, this position is great, since you can lay on your side sitting up on your elbow, or just lying flat,” says Nelson. “For maximum enjoyment, grind your pelvis in a circular motion to increase orgasmic potential.” *This sex position works for all gender pairings!
Both partners can lie on their sides in the binding position, so it’s a resounding yes from us. To maximize pleasure for both people, the vagina-owner can lift their leg up high, while their partner can thrust from behind. There’s also room for kissing and nipple stimulation, which makes this position extremely versatile.
“This position is one of the best for deep penetration and G-spot stimulation,” says Nelson. “With your feet flat against your partner’s chest, you can control the depth of the thrust or tickle [their] balls. Place a pillow or wedge for back support and superior positioning to aid in stimulation and orgasm.”
This one’s probably the most high-effort position on this list, but don’t worry, it’s still lazy girl-approved, and it’ll make you feel like you’re flying. The vagina-owner lays on their stomach with their hands on the ground, and their partner can wrap their entire body around them (hands are also on the floor). It might take a minute to figure out the positioning, but trust us, it’s so worth it.
“This modified doggy-style is one of the best for G-spot stimulation, and for those times when you’re feeling lazy. Open legs will give you deep penetration, and closed legs close will be ideal for G-spotting. Plus, your partner has a great view to smack you on the butt or for anal and vaginal fingering,” says Nelson. *This sex position works for all gender pairings!
Who said a blowjob has to be a job? This position allows both partners to lie down (Hallelujah), and is certainly easier on the knees compared to other BJ positions. In this one, the penis-owner lies on their back with their knees bent, allowing for easy access to their whole package.
“To make this position feel amazing for both partners, with every thrust, the top partner should squeeze and release the penis or toy with [their] vagina through a kegel,” says Nelson. “The sensation of tightening will drive [penis owners] crazy, and the squeezing and thrusting will help you on your way to orgasm.” *This sex position works for all gender pairings!
“[Vagina owners] will enjoy this head-to-foot position where your bodies are smushed together and one partner can finger the other,” says Nelson. “For [cis-gendered] straight couples, the penis is at an unusual angle, so you can try holding open your butt cheeks to help him better slide in,” says Nelson. *This sex position works for all gender pairings!
“Classic missionary is one of the best positions for intimacy and connecting with your partner. It feels good for both people and is great for kissing, butt-grabbing and sucking on nipples during intercourse.” *This sex position works for all gender pairings!
